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Slayton Natasha Tillett wrote: ↑February 7th, 2024, 6:38 pm Your insights emphasize the importance of self-awareness and clarity in communication. By acknowledging our limitations in understanding others' thoughts and feelings, we can approach interactions with humility and open-mindedness. Cultivating assertiveness while respecting boundaries helps create healthier communication dynamics and fosters genuine understanding. Your reminders serve as a valuable guide for navigating complex social interactions with empathy and integrity.

I found it hard to separate clarity in communication and communication boundaries. To me, they go hand in hand.

Unfortunately, humans will always assume instead of trying to clarify things. This is something toxic that we always do.

There have been a couple arguments that I am aware of because someone mistook a tone for something bad. I have often had problems with friends because I mistook their tone. I have learned to communicate my feelings with them and that way my mind is calm and I’m not thinking about how someone talked to me.

Toxic inassertiveness, or encouraging toxic inassertiveness in others, is well defined and explained by this definition. A very entertaining and helpful video as well! When you say ABC, the assertive, non-toxic person won't assume you mean XYZ. When you say XYZ, he will merely inquire politely and curiously if you mean ABC.

I think some people expect one to read between the lines. There are times when someone is angry and expects you to understand without them telling you, and if you ask them if this is what you want, It adds fuel to the fire. This is my personal experience with few others in my life. I think sometimes understanding their actions is better than believing what they say. Some people say something and do something. Some just want to sound courteous, but their actions are clear.

This is really helpful, especially for people who overthink and get caught up in their own thoughts. Trying to read others' minds can be stressful. I appreciate your meditation practice that reminds us we can’t know what others are thinking, and it’s really not our concern.