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Hi Scott,
Do you have any advice related to parenting, specifically on anger management in kids? I have two daughters who are entering their adolescent stage. Their anger level has increased and they fight a lot nowadays. Can you provide any ideas to deal with anger issues?

Hi, Priya Murugesan,

Thank you for your question!

My whole book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All, is essentially simply about how to deal with bodily emotions and urges such as fear, anger, hunger, the urge to drink alcohol or smoke cigarettes, sexual attraction, and so on.

Thus, if you want to help someone else deal with those things, the best thing to do would typically be to give them a copy of my book, In It Together: The Beautiful Struggle Uniting Us All.

As far as the best way to get your kids to implement the teachings of In It Together (i.e. for them to be a free spirit in relation to feelings like fear and anger rather than be a slave to fear, anger, etc.), that was already asked previously in the Q&A. Please do read that answer, as I think it will be very helpful to you:

What is your approach to raising children, especially keeping in mind the eleven suggestions at the end of your book?

Are you sure you are already strictly adhering to all eleven of the numbered suggestions at the end of my book? If not, that is where I recommend you start. The best and most effective way to hopefully get your kids to do something is to do it yourself, consistently, every single day from now on.

It's urgent because every day you spend not being a happy free spirit (a.k.a. an extremely self-disciplined person with invincible inner peace) is another day your kids learn and habituate equally miserable self-harmful habits. It's analogous to going into debt financially. If you raise your kids one way from age 0 through 12 and then finally start being a good role model at age 13, you might only, at best, be able to undo some of the damage you already did. Every day you wait to start digging yourself out of that debt, you go further into debt and leave yourself less time to get out of debt, making it even more likely that you will never be able to get out of the debt.

The point is this: If you have kids, it is so important that you don't wait even another second to start strictly following all eleven of the infinitely easy-to-follow numbered suggestions at the end of my book, for your kids' sake more than yours. You are their role model whether you like it or not.



With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott

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