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This topic is about the December 2023 Philosophy Book of the Month, Fireproof Happiness: Extinguishing Anxiety & Igniting Hope by Dr. Randy Ross



In this insightful book a profound exploration is presented on the experiences we endured during the COVID-19 pandemic. Particularly, it delves into the challenges of coping with prolonged close proximity and confinement that occurred with the travel restrictions, a universal ordeal that reshaped our understanding of personal space and freedom.

Jean-Paul Sartre, in his existentialist play "No Exit," famously asserted that 'Hell is other people.' This provocative idea suggests that the mere presence of others subjects us to a relentless state of self-awareness and judgment, which can be psychologically burdensome. The pandemic, with its enforced closeness and disruption of personal boundaries, casts a new light on Sartre's concept. Many of us found ourselves trapped in a seemingly endless cycle of being watched, judged, and confined by those closest to us.

This intense scrutiny often led to conflicts, as the usual roles and identities within the family unit were challenged. The constant gaze of family members might have felt like a cage, limiting our freedom and ability to express our true selves. It's a scenario Sartre might argue exemplifies his theory: our liberty and self-conception are impinged upon by the mere existence of others in our personal space.

Did you feel a heightened sense of scrutiny or judgment from those you lived with during the COVID-19 Pandemic travel restrictions? How did this impact your relationships and your sense of self? Do you find Sartre's viewpoint relatable, or does another philosophical theory better explain your experience?

I've never really thought of Hell to be other people because being around people especially family is a very rewarding experience and would only be considered hell if there's conflict with those people or if we don't feel comfortable around those people. For me, the pandemic was another amazing time, although we did have our fights, to spend and get to be with family.

Esther Deekor wrote: ↑December 24th, 2023, 1:44 pm I've never really thought of Hell to be other people because being around people especially family is a very rewarding experience and would only be considered hell if there's conflict with those people or if we don't feel comfortable around those people. For me, the pandemic was another amazing time, although we did have our fights, to spend and get to be with family.

Thank you for sharing your perspective on the experience of close proximity during the pandemic. It's refreshing to hear a viewpoint that contrasts with Sartre's idea of 'Hell is other people,' especially when it comes to family.

Your experience of finding being around family rewarding and not necessarily 'hell' is interesting. It echoes the sentiments of many who found comfort and strengthened bonds during the pandemic. Research on family dynamics during lockdowns, like those conducted by the American Psychological Association, suggests that such periods can indeed enhance family relationships and provide opportunities for quality time.

I agree that the presence of conflict can significantly impact our experience of being in close quarters with others. It's the nature of these conflicts, as you mentioned, that can transform a potentially positive experience into something more challenging. However, it's also important to note that conflicts or discomfort can arise not just from direct confrontations but also from the lack of personal space. The continuous presence of others, even loved ones, can sometimes feel overwhelming, as explored in studies on personal space and mental well-being.

Your positive experience during the pandemic indeed highlights how individual responses to proximity vary. While some find such situations rewarding, others may struggle with the lack of 'me time.' Personally, I sometimes find it challenging when it becomes difficult to find personal time. The need for personal space is well-documented, like in "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain, which discusses how solitude can be crucial for certain individuals.

Do you not ever feel the need for personal space, or have you never felt confined during these times? While the pandemic brought families closer, it also challenged many people's need for personal time and space, something that seems to contrast with your experience. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on how you balance the need for family time with personal time, especially during such intense periods of proximity.