I feel that I need to re-iterate that I am attempting to draw a sharp distinction between gendered tendencies and behaviours (which I do not question and accept are innate) and gender identity. So the fact that I am am attracted to women and not men (a typical male trait), liked playing with with cars, soldiers and robots when I was a child, and exhibit other behaviours and characteristics that are normally viewed as masculine I do not take as any kind of indicator of my gender identity. I imagine it to be some kind of inner sense of gender that is quite apart from all those things. Are we on the same page here?
The John/Joan case is interesting. Clearly he was distressed throughout is childhood and never really accepted the transition that was forced upon him almost from birth. But I do wonder how much of that distress was caused by the process itself. John never exactly had a fully functioning female body. He had some kind of botched attempt at a sex change operation and had to take hormone supplements throughout childhood. John never really had a good reason to think of himself as female because ... he never was.
And if we interpret the John/Joan case as evidence that you can't just socially condition someone into becoming the opposite gender, that is not the same as proving that sometimes we are born with a gender identity that doesn't match our physical body; that is
not what happened with John.
Sy Borg wrote:I am simply pointing out that gender identity is obviously real.
Maybe
I am the weird one? I'm here questioning something that seems so obvious and self-evident to most other people. But if there is a sense of gender that is just there and innate in you is somehow missing in me, it's going to be hard to understand, or to relate to each other's point of view. All I can say is what seems obvious to you isn't obvious to me.
Sy Borg wrote:Consider the insane cost and hassle of having a sex change. Would a person do that if they felt that their regular life was viable or worth preserving. No, they would have to be absolutely freaking out and grabbing the horrific option of changing sex like a drowning person grabs floating jetsam.
I have heard that there are significant comorbidities in people referred to gender clinics with other phycological conditions (autism for example) so it is possible that people might resort to such desperate measures in the hope that it will make them feel better. But if the real reason for their psychological distress is something else that it's not actually going to work.
And there have certainly been some examples of people who have regretted it, that it did not actually transform their lives as positively as they hoped it would. Now, I'm not saying that it won't ever help people but part of the problem here is the lack of follow up and study there has been on those who have transitioned. Plus people who do speak out about their regret can attract a lot of hate from the "community" which would naturally deter people from speaking out about it. The truth is that we just don't know how effective such surgery is.
But the fact that people are sometimes driven to such desperate measures does not in itself prove that gender identity is a real thing.