Pattern-chaser wrote: ↑November 28th, 2024, 12:21 pmIt seems to me that you protest too much. If you truly felt for the "poor misguided souls" you would speak with less hostility towards them.Sy Borg wrote: ↑November 25th, 2024, 4:14 pmIf "successful" means acquiring and retaining personal wealth — the capitalist's mantra — then I personally reject it. And I have lived my life (in the capitalist country in which I was born and raised) accordingly. I have tried to give priority to the happiness and wellbeing of me and my family, over financial 'success'.Pattern-chaser wrote: ↑November 25th, 2024, 8:35 amOkay, to be financially successful. Whatever. And yes, you seem to be jealous.Sy Borg wrote: ↑November 23rd, 2024, 11:51 pm I think you grossly underestimate the abilities and qualities needed to be successful. Ruthlessness is indeed one quality that's proved useful and, it seems, is essential to thrive in the top end of business and politics. You have to be a "killer", a predator, rather than prey. These are the alphas, the silverbacks of wider society (though they would not be alpha in a rough bar room, which has physically robust alphas)."Jealous"? Do you really think that is why I (or others) have replied as I (we) have? I think that here, our context is rather broader, and we're considering most if not all of humanity, not just a few envious individuals. Is that not so?
Life is inherently competitive. Large societies tend to out-compete smaller ones. Large societies can only form if the vast majority of members are "domesticated" - good-natured, generally well-intentioned. and non-violent. However, large societies are complex, with increasing specialisation. Thus, some members need to be ruthless (leaders, farmers), uncaring (surgeons, pilots) or violent (police, military). By the same token, some need to be especially sensitive and caring, who excel in human/health services.
As an autist, it would be logical to support such pluralism and accept different qualities of people in different positions, as it has allowed you (analytics mathematical, not very social) to find a niche. Likewise, it's irrational for extraverts to judge or mock autistic spectrum people.
Don't be jealous. Marvel at the myriad abilities and qualities of people.
But to get to the heart of this, perhaps we could usefully consider what we mean by "successful"? We started off with the end result — wealth; riches — and tracked back to see where that wealth came from. Then, setting aside those who merely inherited family wealth, you looked at capable and 'successful' people. But what is it about those people that leads you to describe them as "successful"? Is it just that they have obtained or achieved wealth, or is there more to it than that?
I find that my attitude to "success", as you describe it, is closer to despising it than to being "jealous" of the poor misguided souls who have (IMO!) wasted their lives chasing $$$.🤑🤑🤑
Worldly success often involves more than it seems on face value - greater involvement, understanding and connection than is average. So I don't reject financial success, rather I accept that I never had the kinds of skills and aptitudes needed to achieve in that area.