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[Brandon Gates 7]

Your insights emphasize the importance of self-awareness and clarity in communication. By acknowledging our limitations in understanding others' thoughts and feelings, we can approach interactions with humility and open-mindedness. Cultivating assertiveness while respecting boundaries helps create healthier communication dynamics and fosters genuine understanding. Your reminders serve as a valuable guide for navigating complex social interactions with empathy and integrity.

I found it hard to separate clarity in communication and communication boundaries. To me, they go hand in hand.

[James Pain]

Unfortunately, humans will always assume instead of trying to clarify things. This is something toxic that we always do.

[Divine Stephens]

There have been a couple arguments that I am aware of because someone mistook a tone for something bad. I have often had problems with friends because I mistook their tone. I have learned to communicate my feelings with them and that way my mind is calm and I’m not thinking about how someone talked to me.

[Shiru Elizabeth]

Toxic inassertiveness, or encouraging toxic inassertiveness in others, is well defined and explained by this definition. A very entertaining and helpful video as well! When you say ABC, the assertive, non-toxic person won't assume you mean XYZ. When you say XYZ, he will merely inquire politely and curiously if you mean ABC.

[Runan]

I think some people expect one to read between the lines. There are times when someone is angry and expects you to understand without them telling you, and if you ask them if this is what you want, It adds fuel to the fire. This is my personal experience with few others in my life. I think sometimes understanding their actions is better than believing what they say. Some people say something and do something. Some just want to sound courteous, but their actions are clear.

[Yung Jun]

This is really helpful, especially for people who overthink and get caught up in their own thoughts. Trying to read others' minds can be stressful. I appreciate your meditation practice that reminds us we can’t know what others are thinking, and it’s really not our concern.

[Cynthia Pence]

I can really relate to the issue raised with this post. Deciding not to even mind what the other part thinks in their mind would help one to be more free-spirited and prevent having hatred unnecessarily.

[Bethel Saint Bright]

I think I am guilty of toxic unassertiveness. Honestly, I like to read other meanings beyond what people say or do. I take a step today to change and take people statements literally, except they act otherwise. Or will it still be toxic unassertiveness?

[Daniel Lyon]

I agree with this post. The key and peele sketch is just on point. Personally, when I know someone has a perception about me, I just let the gods of assumption guide them through because in the end, we are all left to our own devices. In conversations, it is evident that tone matters, but what is being said plays a major role and will most likely decide the perception someone gets of you.

[Priya Murugesan]

A quite interesting post and when you think about it, it is very true. A lot of times, people just assume without knowing the truth. When you talk with them, an argument occurs mainly due to their assumptions. Even after making ourselves clear, they firmly believe in their assumption and don't want to change their opinion. They project their reading on us and create conflicts. It is better for all not to make any assumptions about others.