Sushan wrote: ↑May 3rd, 2024, 10:47 pm
Jenna Padayachee wrote: ↑May 1st, 2024, 5:32 am
Sushan wrote: ↑April 25th, 2024, 10:43 am
Your reflection on the challenges and triumphs of embracing one's authentic self provides a profound exploration of identity and personal growth. While I agree that individual self-awareness and authentic living are critical for personal development, the notion of being "truly oneself" in a societal context is inherently complex.
Philosophically, the idea that we wear 'masks' can be seen through various lenses. Existentialists, particularly Jean-Paul Sartre, talked about 'bad faith'—a concept where individuals deny their true nature to conform to societal expectations. You correctly identify that these masks, sometimes protective, can prevent us from fully and authentically experiencing life.
However, completely removing these masks might not always be practical or beneficial. Society functions with a certain level of expectation and conformity, which, while often restrictive, also provides a framework within which we operate and interact. Your struggle with the reception of your authenticity resonates with the existential challenge of finding a balance between individual authenticity and social acceptability.
Moreover, the journey to self-discovery and shedding these masks, as you describe, is not merely about personal liberation but also involves navigating the social fabric that might not always be receptive or supportive. This dichotomy raises important philosophical questions about the nature of freedom and the essence of personal identity.
In addition, while your approach emphasizes intuition and a personal spiritual journey, one might argue that a purely introspective path risks overlooking the broader societal and relational contexts that shape us.
How do we reconcile our internal journey with external influences? How can we foster environments that encourage both individual authenticity and communal harmony?
Once again, I find your view engaging. Thank you.
I agree that the view of the masks we wear can be beneficial in some instances. However, from my own life experience, I strongly believe that letting go of these masks is important in identifying the true meaning of my own individual path and purpose. The danger of relying on masks is that they can ultimately consume us, which is the reason/root cause of core societal issues.
In my view, as we progress and grow, letting go of certain masks will allow us to transform into a more authentic version of ourselves ( all masks serve a temporal purpose in life), as discussed in the Unfakeable Code. Sometimes, we will lean to certain masks as a crutch due to subconsciously clinging to survival ( from trauma), and it is important to deal with such situations honestly, fearlessly, and with love. A nonaccepting society is a group of individuals ( again, my view obtained from experience of very political environments) who depict dictative tendencies and complex issues amplified through their possession of specific resources, allowing them such control.
An authentic individual or one that is growing in this direction may not fit in environments because of the social structure; they will either let go of this environment and move on to new environments supporting their next phase of growth towards being authentic or influence the experience of others revealing their own authenticity in their original environment.
I firmly believe that some of us will never realize that such masks exist and connect deeply with who we are in our timeline, and this is simply their journey ( I cannot control anyone's decisions in this regard nor force them to see what I see, even if I believe it's for their souls benefit). I can only strongly follow my intuition and create my own path with all that I experience; this is what I choose for myself. I have been shunned in some environments for this, but I have taken the lessons and moved forward focused on my authentic experiences and expressions. I have seen the positive differences my experience and my choices in my existence have made over time; in the community and society I am in, there are these beautiful rewarding instances that make all difficulties worth it. I have developed new relationships and improved compassion and understanding in old ones ( while still embracing differences). I have learned much more about who I am and what I can achieve through simply being me with much love.
It’s really admirable how you’ve taught yourself to steer clear of unaccepting crowds and have nurtured new relationships that support your authentic self. Your journey resonates deeply with the themes explored in the movie *The Invention of Lying*. In this film, everyone in the world always tells the truth until one character discovers how to lie. This shift changes everything, highlighting how complex and challenging constant honesty can be, yet also showing the profound impact of authenticity.
Just like in the movie, where the protagonist’s discovery of lying introduces new dynamics to human relationships, your move towards authenticity in a sometimes inauthentic world can shift dynamics around you. It’s interesting to consider how much of our social structure relies on unspoken agreements about what truths are acceptable and what happens when someone breaks that mold.
Your experiences seem to echo the idea that being true to oneself, despite societal pressures, leads to richer and more meaningful interactions, much like the deeper truths the characters in the movie must confront once lying enters their world.
What do you think about the balance the movie strikes between the chaos caused by lying and the simplicity of truth? How does this compare to your experiences in navigating authenticity in real-world relationships?
Thank you, Sushan. I have stared into the abyss of monsters, darkness, and death, so to speak. My initial naivety, fears, and social conditioning have put me into some interesting corners of suffocation, and it is my love for the Divine that has led me out. I am eternally grateful now for all of it, as it has changed my view and strengthened me to forge forward in my journey. I resonate deeply with
Rumi's poetry. When I look at the world and people despite the darkness projected, I choose to celebrate life and its essence of light. I keep on choosing love ( in its holistic essence). The more I choose it, the more I submit to the Divine essence; it feels right for me. As I choose to walk "( in authenticity/letting go of masks I used) " on the way, the way appears".
Concentrating too much on the darkness or delusions will simply allow it to consume you ( I have come close many times). The "Lord of The Rings (Trilogy by Peter Jackson)" happens to be one of my favorite cinematic translations of
JRR Tolkien books. All of the good-natured characters are tested with the potential of evil on many levels throughout. We experience a wide range of outcomes based on what the characters choose ultimately. The one scene that sticks into my mind, in particular, is when Frodo, together with Sam and Gollum, travels through the wetlands (which contain a collection of pools with dead faces /"Dead Marshes), and Frodo stares at one of the "lights' (an illusion), his focus is actually on one of the dead faces, causing him to be entranced and he falls into the water, and the dead marshes nearly consumes his being.
Also, the
popular quote, " He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you," surfaces to my mind. Focusing too long on battles with ourselves and with one's ego can lead to this fate. At some point, it helps to sit and observe yourself and your essence and find your " true north'.
It makes sense to seek the light of the truth and follow its lead.
I am very interested in searching for this movie, " The Invention of Lying." It sounds realistic and thought-provoking. Thanks for sharing it!! Based on your wonderful elaboration of its contents, I can tell you upfront that the only reason I believe the truth hurts is when we don't love ourselves enough to trust in who we truly are and express it, e.g I believe I am beautiful, but I will not fit everyone's idea of beautiful and the minute I start prioritizing and focusing on everyone else's destructive criticism, I break down ( I may end up spending money and my life trying to chase this acceptable "fleeting" idea of beauty). Lies allow us to fit in and avoid confrontation, it's an easy route to take and sometimes appears to be filled with the illusion of light and adventure.
Loving myself and accepting the reality that others may find me in whatever way they feel or see and judge, accepting this with peace and healthy assertion. yet choosing to focus on me and my essence, my path, and what my Creator has blessed me with allows me to keep moving forward on my journey with honor ( to my creator) and grace and "live" fully. This, for me, is worth my time.