Lagayscienza wrote: ↑April 18th, 2024, 6:14 amI cannot speak for others, but I know that, from my earliest memories, I always felt strongly that I was a boy and not a girl and I felt "right" being a boy. I knew what girls were. And I knew emphatically that I was not one of them. I suspect it is the same or the vast majority of boys and girls. So, does that indicate that I had an innate sense of my gender? I guess that will depend on what we mean by "innate". I don't know whether my gender identity was "inborn" but I don't remember ever having to learn that I was a boy. But I'm not sure whether that proves anything.
That's interesting because, as I have said, I don't seem that have my own deeply held sense that I am a male (that you appear to have). How can those two subjective experiences be reconciled?
Perhaps one or the other of us is wrong.
You could be wrong because it's possible that it is simply something you learned subconsciously by the way you were treated and what you were told by others from the moment you were born. It is a notoriously difficult problem separating nature from nurture, of which this question is but an aspect of.
I could be wrong because I just take it for granted without even realising it. If it is something I've always had, how can I really be aware of what it is like unless I lost it (or it changed)?
Perhaps we are both right.
It is possible that it varies by individual. Perhaps some have a strong sense of gender and others less so (or even none)? Just as there are
asexuals who do not feel attracted to either males or females, perhaps I am
agender if I do not have an internal sense of gender?
And of course it could be something that changes throughout your life. Some people appear to develop gender dysphoria later in life (where they did not appear to have it before). Most of the conversation in this thread has treated it as if it is something that is fixed but do not some people claim to be gender
fluid? If it does change (for some people), what causes it to change?
I'm increasingly inclined to think of gender identity as a
drive or
desire. Your gender identity is the gender you feel driven or desire to be. Defining it thusly does not really help to answer my original question but it might help me to understand it better if that was the case. At least it makes more sense to me than merely being some kind of innate self knowledge.