Hi,
Maliha Naveed,
Thank you for your questions!
Maliha Naveed wrote: ↑April 8th, 2023, 8:09 am1- "What is the relation between our dreams and our choice to dream? Do we have a choice here?"
I'm not sure that we have a choice to dream or not to dream, especially in the sense that waking life is but a waking dream. For an individual human, there is technically the option of suicide. The philosopher Albert Camus described the question of suicide as
the only truly serious question in philosophy.
Maliha Naveed wrote: ↑April 8th, 2023, 8:09 am2- How can we choose if the dream be pleasant or a nightmare?"
For a sleeping dream while literally asleep in your bed at night, becoming lucid and thus turning the dream into a lucid dream is probably the best way to have more power over the events and amount pleasantries versus horrors in it.
For the waking dream that is waking life, there's what's called 'spiritual awakening' which I would usually prefer call 'spiritual lucidity'. In other words, simply realizing that waking life is a dream is incredibly empowering in terms of being able to control that dream. A lot of seeming superstitions become common sense once we become spiritually lucid, such as ideas related to so-called karma, or the law of attraction, or the power of positive thinking, the power to manifest what one chooses into reality, the self-fulfilling nature of fears, the way jealousy can ruin a romantic relationship and drives ones lover into the arms of another, the metaphor of the fact a race car tends to go where its driver is looking even if that's straight in a wall or curb.
On those subjects, here are some topics in the forum I have written related to that:
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Perception is almost entirely a matter of projection.
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Commentary on self-transcendence, ego death, and dying before you die; with a finger snap more brutal than Thanos
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We see what we want to see, meaning what we choose to see.
Also, here is
a link to related tweet I made.
Also relevant is my latest poem,
Fantastic Costumes in a World of Only Beautiful Gray. Most relevant is the last sentence from that poem:
For in the most heavenly of heavens, even the hell-wishers are granted their wish.
Maliha Naveed wrote: ↑April 8th, 2023, 8:09 am
Also, Freud says, 'there is an intimate bond, with laws of its own, between the unintelligible and complicated nature of the dream and the difficulties attending communication of the thoughts connected with the dream."
When so many of our dreams are unintelligible and complicated arising from our thoughts while we are awake, how can we simplify them?
I disagree with Freud about that.
I think more modern and, more importantly, more
scientifically rigorous research on dreams has revealed that they tend to be mundane.
Freud's false claim otherwise, which mirrors a common misconception, is presumably just the result of
recollection bias: Wild, fantastic, thought-provoking, curious, and complicated dreams are more memorable. Memorability creates the illusion of frequency, hence why people overestimate the frequency of airplane crashes and how often they have to wait in line at the grocery store. It's also why when a married couple is individually polled about what percentage they do certain chores (e.g. dishes) versus their partner the total amount is way over 100% which is impossible. We don't remember things that happen when we aren't around, at least not as much, and thus underestimate their frequency. We likewise don't remember as well when it's someone else besides us who is suffering in a situation, such as casually noticing someone is mowing the lawn versus being the one actually sweating in the miserable heat; one will remember that better because of the more extreme emotional content and will this overestimate its frequency while the other will underestimate its frequency to its mundane to them. We drastically underestimate the frequency of things that feel and/or are mundane to us. Freud was presumably relying on anecdotal accounts, rather than cold hard statistic gained from controlled scientific studies involving waking people up, asking them what they dreamed about, and rating that on a scale of complexity and such, especially with double-blind in which the raters of complexity are given some stories that are dreams and some that are just regular memories without being told which is which. My rough understanding is that actual studies like that have since been done and the results are that dreams are typically fairly mundane and not that extraordinary or any more complex than people's recounting of waking life. (Though, if you ask someone how their day was at work or such, they will often tell you a complicated story with lots of drama, so it's all relative.)
With that said, nonetheless, my advice for reaching the goal you've stated (how to simplify your dreams) would be to focus on simplifying your thoughts while awake during the day (i.e. while experiencing this waking dream that is waking life).
I find that feelings tend to persist from the transition between sleeping dream and this waking dream we call waking life. For example, if I am itchy before I go to sleep, I'll likely also be itchy in my dream while asleep, and vice versa. If I am feeling hunger, anger, or fear before I go to sleep, I tend to have that same feeling still during my sleeping dream. The vice versa is also true: If I am feeling that way in my dream just before waking up I tend to still have that feeling after waking up. The transition in and out of sleep has little effect on my bodily feelings such as hunger, fear, anger, or itchiness.
Thus, if you want to have more inner peace, self-discipline, and lucidity while dreaming during sleep at night, my advice is to develop more inner peace and lucidity while awake during the day.
The same can go both ways: If you want to do something more frequently or better during waking life, it can help to practice it while dreaming at night too. That can go for more spiritual practices such as exercising self-discipline, mindful meditation, and maintaining your inner peace, but it can also go for more practical exercises such as practicing public speaking or basketball. You can practice those in your sleeping dream too.
I hope that advice is helpful! Let me know if you have any other questions.
With love,
Eckhart Aurelius Hughes
a.k.a. Scott
My entire political philosophy summed up in one tweet.
"The mind is a wonderful servant but a terrible master."
I believe spiritual freedom (a.k.a. self-discipline) manifests as bravery, confidence, grace, honesty, love, and inner peace.